This is a post that I have not wanted to write. I kept putting it off…but it’s an issue that finally needs to be addressed.
I hate confrontation. Hate it. I usually avoid it if at all possible. But, after seeking the advice from several trusted friends, I have come to realize that if I don’t confront this problem, it will NOT go away. It will only get worse. And that’s not something I can bear.
Over the past several months, I have been receiving several unkind emails and comments. I’ve posted some things on Facebook, just ideas or little tips, and sometimes they get beat down very harshly. Sometimes I get emails from readers telling me that I’m “annoying” or that I “only post common sense that everyone already knows,” and I’m “not helpful at all.”
I kept telling Barry and my family that these things weren’t bothering me – that with every comment, I got a thicker skin. Well, that’s a lie…and quite frankly, I don’t want to have thick skin. These comments hurt. Every time I get a nasty comment, it’s like a smack in the face.
Why? Because I love y’all. I write for you…to have fun and to teach. It’s hard to take that kind of hate when I don’t feel as though I’ve done anything wrong.
I feel beat down and hurt – and recently I just wanted to quit. But then my awesome friend, Leigh Ann from Intentional by Grace sent me this wonderful article: Don’t Be Ruled By The 1%. And wow…it spoke to me. 99% of my readers are nice – they say nice things to me and they are helpful. I enjoy you – thanks for being my friend.
I will NOT allow the 1% to rule how I feel about my blog any more.
I know this is something that other bloggers are dealing with as well – and I’m speaking out. We are not going to take this treatment any longer!
My blog is my home. Would you come into my home and say something disrespectful to me or to company that I was hosting? I would surely hope not. So, why would you say something nasty on Facebook or via email? Because you can’t see me? Well guess what, I’M REAL.
When you come to my blog, I expect you to treat me and my family with respect. I expect you to treat my guest posters with that same respect. If you don’t, you’re outta here. Plain and simple.
From hence forward, if Barry or I discern a comment to be rude or hurtful, it will be deleted. Immediately. Think about what you say before you write it.
Please don’t take this to mean that we don’t want you to comment! I love your comments and feedback! I thrive on it! But, please don’t come here to say something mean or nasty just because you’re mad about what I said…or because I hit a nerve.
It is possible to respectfully disagree. If you don’t like what I said, tell me why – but be kind about it. There is no need to be harsh, rude or judgmental.
So, whew. That’s it. I’m glad that’s over with. Let’s have fun now, shall we?