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Grace for a Pregnant Mama

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This pregnancy took us by surprise. We were eager to increase our family, but it hadn’t happened for us, so we almost felt like it would never happen. And then BANG! Positive test. I lived high for one week…and then it hit – all-day morning sickness and fatigue. With Annie, my pregnancy had been a breeze. This one is a complete opposite. For almost two months, I would lie on the couch all day with absolutely no energy and no desire to eat anything except beef and French fries. I was sick…I was whiny. I wasn’t Stacy.

What to Drink??

Water made me literally so sick I thought I would vomit. So, I tried drinking tea. Nope, that wasn’t any better. I couldn’t even drink my beloved coffee. Some days, I got by with little to nothing to drink because it just made me feel bad. My wise friend Erin from The Humbled Homemaker told me to just give in and get some Sprite – I needed something to drink. I felt like I was shriveling up inside. For several days, I was hard headed and told her I could make it…and then, in a moment of weakness, I called Barry at work and asked him to bring home some Sprite.

Me, the lady who had been without soda for almost a year, gave in and had a two liter of Sprite – and let me tell you something, friends – that was the best thing I had never tasted in my whole life. I’m sure my body just soaked it right up. Eventually I figured out that I could also drink Simply Orange orange juice and organic vegetable juice.

I wasn’t cooking at all. I was sending Barry to the store for processed bagels, salty potato chips, and Cheeze Its…he was cooking dinner or bringing it home. That’s how I was making it from day to day. I was physically unable to cook. Because this pregnancy took us by surprise, I wasn’t fully prepared – so I didn’t have a freezer stocked with pre-made foods like a good whole-foodie would say I should have had. And if I had, I probably wouldn’t have been able to swallow it anyway. I know lots of people would say “tsk, tsk Stacy. You should always be prepared and have the foods you need on hand.” Sometimes when you’re packing up your entire house to move and then a pregnancy hits, some things have to fall by the way-side for a bit.

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What to Eat??

How far I had fallen. I was actually ashamed of myself for a while. And then I took off my whiny baby panties and smacked myself. This is stupid. I am hungry. I am thirsty. If water and cooking were making me sick, I was still going to have to eat SOMETHING. I wanted a big, greasy burger from the fast food joint. I wanted French fries loaded with mounds of ketchup…and if I had to smell it cooking, I would hurl. And ice cream – I could eat massive quantities of ice cream, which I was able to make since it didn’t have a smell. Sweet relief – food and drink. I’m so thankful that I finally gave in and ate something.

I came to realize very quickly that there are certain times in life when a Mama needs grace. Grace from God. Grace from her family. Grace from her friends. I couldn’t cook – I needed Barry’s help. I’m not always going to be able to cook a whole foods meal for my family. I want to, but for me it’s not a reality. That’s why the 80/20 Principle is such a huge deal around here. I have to feed my family, even when I feel like crap. If that means that occasionally we have a $1 McChicken, then so be it. And God bless that McChicken.

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I realize that I may be shunned by the Whole Foods community. I know what they would tell me – I should get off my lazy panties and cook dinner anyway – even if it made me yak. You know what I say? That’s dumb. I’m asking for grace from you – I try to do the best for my family and teach you great things about whole foods…but I don’t always eat them.

I always want to keep it real around here. So, I’m confessing to you – I’m not a Real Foodie. I’m not. I won’t ever be. I will feed my family to the best of my ability…but some days, it’s not going to happen. This pregnant mama may need some Sprite and broasted chicken every now and then for the next little bit. I’m coming clean with you. Amen.

But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” – James 4:6

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*This post is linked at Simple Lives Thursday on GNOWFGLINS, at Finer Things Friday on Amy’s Finer Things, at Weekend Whatever on Your Thriving Family, at Pennywise Platter on The Nourishing Gourmet, and at Proverbs 31 Thursday at Raising Mighty Arrows.

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About Stacy

Stacy is the author of Crock On: A Semi-Whole Foods Slow Cooker Cookbook and Keep Crockin': A Poorganic Slow Cooker Cookbook, and a stay-at-home and homeschooling mom to her three children, Annie (June 2009), Andy (August 2012) and Eli (September 2014). After an “awakening” in March 2011, her family switched to a more natural, whole foods diet. She likes to blog about how to live on less than you make and how to eat good food while doing it. Her passion is teaching others how to save money and she tag teams with her husband in this endeavor. At Stacy Makes Cents you’ll find information on how to save money in the kitchen, how to have fun with your kids, and how to be thrifty in all areas of life. Her passion is teaching others how to live debt free. Make sure to follow her on Facebook, Youtube, Pinterest and more to keep up with her daily antics.


  1. This is an awesome post, and makes me realize that sometimes, ok, a lot, I am a real food snob. Even though I do still buy boxed dry potatoes. Oh, if someone tells you to get off your panties, tell them you only go commando. That’ll shut them up fast!

  2. You’re right. They would be dumb to tell you to make your own food anyway. Just between you and me (and the internet), I am so sick of food nannies that I feel a little stabby every time I see the words “pink slime”. People, could we grow a sense of proportion, please? Eat what you can. It. Will. Not. Hurt. You. Not that I’d want to make a lifetime habit of it, but really. Just find some food and eat it.

  3. I’m feeling you. I was exactly like that with my first, except that it didn’t let up until month 8. Yes…..8! I couldn’t even ride in the car, because the vibrations made me vomit. I had to keep plastic bags with me and I can’t tell you how many times I pulled over on the side of the road…LOL. We lived off of anything I didn’t have to cook, or smell for any extended period of time. I’m sure no one here is judging. If they are, then they’ve never been pregnant. I hope the rest of the pregnancy is a breeze.

  4. I CRAVED fast food hamburgers with all three of my pregnancies. Couldn’t eat them fast enough.


    Anyone who would criticize needs to walk a mile, sister.


    • I was actually nervous to write this post…but I am always honest with my readers. And yes, bring on the Big Macs! :-)

  5. I love this post and appreciate it so much. I try very hard to eat well, feed my children well, and eat as whole as possible, but there are days I fail miserably. And that is alright. I cling to the knowledge that with Christ, I am sufficient (even on the days Chick-fil-A is the highest nutritional value of our day)! BTW, when I was preggo, I existed the first trimester on fake, out of the box, mashed potatoes. It was all I could bear. Thanks for sharing!!

  6. I love you, Stacy. You are a wonderful, growing woman, inside and out. :-)

  7. becky wild says:

    Bless your heart. I know what you are going thru. I was the same way with Peyton, plus working full time. I lost almost 15 lbs from being so sick. You have to eat what you can eat. Plain and simple. Who cares what the whole foods world thinks of you. You are responsible for taking care of you and your own. Praise God your momma was there to help you out – all part of God’s plan. :-) Enjoy the burgers and fries. Whole foods will be there afterwards.

  8. I’m right there with ya! I’m 11.5 weeks pregnant with our 5th child and I have been so sick this time around, cooking has been a real chore. The fatigue is overwhelming too. Hope you get some energy soon!

    • :-) I’m doing much better now. I wasn’t ready to write that post while I was in the middle of it…but I still have rough days. I hope you feel better soon!!

  9. Veronica says:

    You’re growing a new human — you deserve grace, lots of rest, and whatever your body *will* tolerate!
    Have you read Creating with God by Sarah Jobe? It’s a great book! I loved it. Might sound funny, but it compares pregnancy and Jesus…so interesting!

  10. Wow, congrats! I remember going through that for both my girls. Mine lasted 5 for the first and until the 7th month for the second. You shouldn’t care what others think since they are not the ones going through it. I hated when people made comments or looks etc… but heck they were the ones usually that had no morning or rather all day sickness! Or they had it for a very very short period. Besides, when you’re up to it I’m sure you’re making healthy meals and everything in moderation right? I hope you are feeling better and can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!

  11. I really had to laugh at this post! I try to feed my family the healthiest way that I can and, even though I am not pregnant, yesterday we ate fast food…twice! Kids had to be at church early so hubby and I had Egg McMuffins after we dropped them off. Then we had to go to a town about an hour away from home so we hit Wendy’s for a quick lunch in the truck. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to get some food in the belly! Don’t feel guilty at all!!!

    • :-) Thank you….I needed to hear that. I’m finally coming clean that I’m not always a real foodie – I never want to lie to you guys. God gives us grace when we need it.

  12. i don’t at all think you are a failure. i think you are pretty rockin! i think it’s okay to ask for help. thankfully God has provided mcchicken to help us out some days. you are very much human and not expected to be a supermom 24/7. i’m pretty certain any dr on earth would say sprite is better than no fluids at all. enjoy your pregnancy if at all possible and know it won’t last forever. pretty soon you will have that baby in your arms and it will be worth it all. :)

  13. Thank you for being honest with us! Sometimes I read these blogs, and I wonder if these people are real…whole foods, perfect house, great kids…so it is a breath of fresh air to read your blog. 😉 Thank you for sharing with us. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do, and you know, that is ok! Do hope that you will soon be feeling better and able to enjoy this pregnancy!

    • Shew, me too. Even thought I’m in the second trimester now, I still cannot eat anything white. Weird, but true. Thanks Kathy!

  14. I would consider myself a “real foodie” (I hate that word….I just love REAL food!), and I would never, ever tell you to go cook dinner anyways!
    You were at great risk of dehydration and eventually starvation, and you did what you had to do to survive. If it means sprite and a greasy burger and fries, then so be it. It’s really nobody else’s business anyways. You will get back to feeling normal eventually, and you will once again fix healthy, nutritious meals for your family. This does not in any way make you less of a “real” food mama. It DOES make you “real” though!
    PS…I once had a friend who, for the entire 9 months of her pregnancy, could only eat McDonald’s fish sandwiches!

    • Cindy, bless you. You’ve given me a boost. :-) Even though I’m in the second trimester now, I’m still not 100% up to par….I look forward to being normal again and cooking like I used to cook. And yes, McDonald’s is good for me right now too. 😉

  15. Lisa McMullin says:

    Sorry, no time to read the replies so I am just gonna respond…
    1. You are preggers, I think you may have noticed that recently. That gives you a pardon from the governor to eat and do whatever you want. Ice cream? When I had my son, I lived at the Ice Cream Stop in Abingdon. Ok, I couldn’t stand burgers but whatever.
    2. Practice what you preach. Whole foods are very beneficial for everyone. But I am here to tell ya, probably not doable on a daily basis. As long as you can ‘work in’ as many whole foods as you can, what is the problem?
    3. Baaad, baaad Stacy!!! You are moving. How dare you be in the process while you are preggers??? any sane woman would know better. hmmmm…that’s why I love you to death: You are as far from sane as I am! So there is my perspective…love you kid, call me if you need anything my friend.

    • :-) See, we didn’t think I’d be pregnant during this move. God had other plans. Thanks Lisa! You’re a sweetheart. :-)

  16. brittany barrett says:

    i could just die!! you explained how i have been feeling since january!!!! im now twelve weeks and was able to finally choke down prime rib from outback steakhouse( ya, poor me! but i haven’t been able to eat like that in a long time) only as long as i didnt have to cook it or go near the kitchen; sometimes i just need sprite, too!! my poor poor husband who thinks an alien has invaded his home and taken away his wife who cooked!
    the kids hamburgers at burger king are perfection! pickles, mustard, ketchup: it satisfies my hunger at night.
    maybe we are both having boys, at least, i think i am.

  17. Ro Ferguson says:

    “You know what I say? That’s dumb.” In the words of Stacy, I say Amen to that. ; ) When I got pregnant, I said, “This is great! Finally, the motivation to eat healthier than I ever have before!” Week 5, I craved salads and raw vegetables of every kind. Week 6, the sickness started. Week 7, and I just could not keep anything fresh down! My staples were frozen bean burritos (cooked of course) and all the many shapes of Chef Boyardee. These were the only foods I could reliably eat without getting immediately sick. I still got sick all day long, ha, but I knew at least that some of it was staying down. My bucket and I were a familiar site at the office. I carried it everywhere. Like you, I was a couch dweller, as soon as I got home from work. Unlike you, I didn’t have a toddler running around. Every morning as I struggled to make it up my office stairs without losing my cookies, ha, I would say, Now just think how much harder this would be if it was your second pregnancy. Bless you, Stacy, and try not to feel too guilty. Despite the ashamedly horrible things I ate while pregnant, my little one turned out perfectly healthy. I like to think I filtered out most of the bad stuff before it got to him, ha, and I am sure your bean will be perfectly fine as well. Oh, funny story: a couple of months ago I watched a promo video for the next season of a show I watched a lot of while I was sick and practically living on the couch. When the theme song started, I instantly felt nauseous!

  18. Willie Mitchell says:

    Stacy, you are wonderful! So you haven’t eaten the foodie what! When you are pregnant you have to do what you have to do to survive. Just feed your family the best you can day by and don’t feel guilty. Erin gave you some good advice….do what you have to do. Trust that soon you will be feeling better.

  19. Amen mama! Balance, we must maintain balance.

    We cannot get so absorbed with one aspect/topic in our lives that we condemn ourselves if we fail. God isn’t condemning us if we eat broasted chicken so why should we. He wants us to eat healthily as our body is His temple but guess what….you said it girlfriend….GRACE!!

    As fellow mamas, sisters in Christ and “read foodies (or wanna be’s) we too should not condemn the mama whose balance looks different then ours.

  20. Oh,Stacy..I know exactly where you are coming from!! I was so sick with both of my pregnancies that at one point, the only thing that would stay down was M&M’s!! So, guess what? There were days I survived on huge bags of those blessed chocolate creations!! You just keep doing the best you can and God will take care of the rest!! Hope you feel better!

  21. Never feel bad. I was on a zofran pump for all of my second pregnancy and didnt plan a 3rd well God thought different. I ended up on hospitalized bed rest for 10weeks he was born at 32 weeks and spent 3 months in NICU. Let me tell u we survived on fast food for months. Know that we all do it. Hope your sickness gets better ((( hugs)))

    • :-) I needed to post it…I think some people are too afraid to admit it. I like to keep it real. Thanks for the hugs! :-) :-)

  22. We’ve all been there, Stacy! When I was pregnant with my first, all I could eat – all I could eat – were plain burgers from Burger King and Sprite. I was so sick. Anyway, no worries! Do what you need to do! And I’m laughing that the ad below your post is for FREE SODA COUPONS. lol

  23. *hugs!* I’m glad you’re eating and drinking now!

    Did you know that it’s actually an established fact that plain water WILL make you sicker/more nauseated? So it *totally* makes sense that you couldn’t drink it! :( A LOT of medical people don’t seem to know that fact. I’m SO thankful I learned that trick from an old Army nurse, and have been able to help my patients get over nausea (morning sickness, post-op anesthesia, etc.) a lot more quickly! :)

    Ginger, lemon and sugar (Sprite, ginger ale, 1 Tbsp of heavy syrup from canned fruit every 15 min or so)are known to help with nausea in many case, as does Vit B6 (but might wanna ask your health care person on that one first). I’ve known gals who survived the nausea by keeping lemon drops and candied ginger around too.

    IF you (or any readers) were wanting to/felt like it, one can always make up one’s own versions of these too, making a ginger or lemon infused 2:1 simple syrup, then mixing with mineral water to taste. (NOT saying you have to, just sharing). :) Loved the verse!

    • Great advice! Thanks so much for sharing!! :-)
      I survived for a while by smelling cinnamon sticks – it kept me from losing it. :-)

  24. We have been having a ton of processed foods since moving. Our budget took a major turn downward, and we have been sick A LOT. I like grace :D.

  25. Thank you so much for your honesty. Our family has been working on eating a more “real food” diet for over a year now but ever since we found out we were pregnant with #4 I feel like we’ve taken 2 HUGE steps backward. I’m in survival mode…too tired or too sick to handle cooking. I was beating myself up, but you’re right…God bless that McChicken! :) God knows our hearts and really that’s what matters most.

  26. I am about 6 weeks along and have been feeling sick for a few weeks too. Thankfully my nausea has not been as bad as yours but I’m still not eating as well as I want to be. My husband has been doing some cooking or I’ve been putting together very simple meals. I have gagged over a few dishes when cooking, mostly b/c of smelling the raw meat. We did go to Chedders last night and let me tell you those fish tacos were amazing! Just take it one day at a time and get some food in you. I hope you start feeling better soon!

    • :-) I’m much better now that I’m in the second trimester…I had to wait until I wasn’t sick to write that post. lol

  27. Ultimately it IS GOD’s blessing that matters most! He wants you healthy and if healthy means a burger and fries, then so be it! I lived on snickers bars my second pregnancy and I was a real food mama…so sometimes it’s necessary to remember that we don’t have to always be in control and to give it to our great God! So good to hear you are feeling better :-)

  28. Janie Gentry says:

    God will continue to bless you as you go through this pregnancy. I remember how hard my second one was, and she’s now 32 years old! I also sympathize with you; some days I just don’t feel like cooking anything. My fibromyalgia and arthritis pretty much make the rules about what I can and cannot do. Praise the Lord for Hardee’s and a husband who also like fast food.

  29. Good grief lady! Even if you weren’t pregnant and/or sick, you’d still be totally AWESOME for doing what you do! When will some people get it through their thick skulls that downing others is NEVER the way?
    I’m so glad you found some food/drink that works for you and that you allowed yourself the freedom to do what was/is best for your family. Isn’t that what it’s all about anyway?

  30. Bravo to you! In my opinion, it is far more important to care for yourself and this new little life than worry about a perfect diet. That will come again. I LOVE that you gave yourself grace in this time! I am learning a lot from you! My first pregnancy, I felt the pressure to cook every meal still, and did a lot of running to the bathroom in the midst, and not being able to even eat the food I made after. (rolling eyes) I will remember your story of grace the next time around! :) Thank you for sharing!

  31. oh dear, you certainly have my permission to eat anything you want! No guilt from me. Each pregnancy, three times, I was so ill….I lived on chocolate candy and donuts. lol…I never have eaten food like that. Well, I did and with a vengeance. So have at it.

  32. I think it’s great that you can do what you need for your family. We can’t always be perfect and that’s why I love you! You’re honest and your 80/20 rule is realistic. My hubby had to unexpectedly travel last week. It’s hard to cook with two little ones at your feet, so we indulged and went out. It was the best I could do at that moment and we’re ok. Don’t let anyone tell you you aren’t good enough because God made you wonderful just the way you are!! And we love you for it!

  33. THANK YOU for writing this post!! I have been telling myself not to feel guilty, but its so hard after working SO hard to create this perfect little home, filled only with real, whole foods… blah, blah, blah. My hubby and I have been trying for 5 years to get pregnant, so when we found out we were… OH my goodness…. indescribible joy. Then two weeks later to find out its TWINS?!? Even better! However, even though I have been blessed with a “puke-free” pregnancy the sheer exhaustion has turned me into a sleeping machine! I’m only ten weeks so I’m told it will ease up a bit soon. I can only hope! My poor hubby has been trying the best he knows how, but… its leaves a bit to be desired. Thankfully I can say I have lost my appetite and get along just fine on broth (the one thing I have been able to keep up on), milk and fruit! I LOVE that you shared the desire for a good burger. I wont feel quite so bad that at week 5 I went to DQ TWICE in one week!! :) LOL!!

    • We don’t have a DQ close by….or I would have totally been there. LOL Congratulations on your double blessing!

  34. Stacy-
    Wonderful post.
    One of the things I am continuing to learn is self forgiveness, and Grace is a part of that. I am constantly “forgiving” myself for not being perfect, and then I realize that no one is perfect and perfection is overrated! What would we learn or strive for if we were perfect?
    You are taking wonderful care of your family, this community, and most of all YOURSELF. Enjoy that fast food and Sprite!!


  35. You know what I craved the entire first tremester of my last pregnancy? Sandwiches. But not the kind with whole grain homemade bread and nitrate-free lunch meat, etc. Nope! White bread, plain old lunchmeat and sliced cheese with lots of store-bought mayo. I ate more of those in 3 months than I had in 3 years, lol. A pregnant mama’s gotta do what a pregnant mama’s gotta do. Gotta keep that baby growing!

  36. Oh, this sounds just like my pregnancy with Claire! Not fun… Enjoy your grace-filled food while you can. 😉

  37. just got hit last week with all day nausea too and I’m coming to the same conclusion :-) I am able to cook.some and im.still doing no sugar which is a good boundary for me :) kombucha has helped some! Youre over it finally right??

  38. Kathy Jo says:

    You’re real AND humble enough to admit it! :)

  39. Stacy, no worries. God provides. Story: The floods came. The police told the man to leave; he said God will provide. They sent a boat; he said God will provide. He had to crawl on his roof and they sent a helicopter; he said God will provide. He drowned and accused God: why didn’t you save me? God calmly looks at him and says, ” I sent a cop, a boat and a helicopter – what exactly did you want?” Sometimes it is not what WE determine to be correct and appropriate but He always gives us what we need.

  40. A message that we all need to hear . . . extend grace to others because we all need it ourselves! This is just a “season” that will pass and bring great reward! In the meantime, do whatever it takes to keep yourself,Bean, Barry and Annie fed and watered. Just another chance to praise God for His mercies which are new every morning!

  41. Bless your heart. As you probably know now, you’re NOT alone! I couldn’t go near the grocery store because it had a fish counter. I could smell it from the parking lot, and start yacking! But at the same time I craved fried fish from MacDonalds (yuck). My sweet husband didn’t bat an eye when I served PB&J’s for dinner and thought it was totally acceptable! I learned early on that I would never be a perfect mother, so I went for good enough! Glad you’re feeling better. Hang in there, we have your back!

  42. Your request for grace has made me feel like I’ve received some myself. :)
    Hope you’re feeling better or do so soon!

  43. Commenting to show my support for you!!!! I don’t like the pretentious attitude of “real foodies” anyway :) I too live by the 80/20 principle and you are rockin it!

  44. Did you write this just for me? 😀 Thank you so much! I’m an almost real foodie with rendered lard and freezer full of broth and pastured meats and lots of fruits and veggies and whey and blah blah blah. That I haven’t been able to smell much less cook in weeks. I’m now 16 weeks pregnant and starting to feel great. But these past 2 months my husband has been cooking whatever home made meals we’ve been having. Other than that, it’s been pizza, burgers, or other horrible foods each night. I’ve felt sooo guilty for giving that to my growing baby inside my belly and to the 2 others outside my belly.
    I also felt horribly sick from water. Do you know why? I’ve never heard of it before. So I drank coconut water or a salt lemon sugar water mix or some soda here and there.
    Thanks again for helping me to let go of the guilt. Sometimes we just gotta do what we gotta do to get through.

    • Oh honey, no need for guilt. There are times in life when we just have to be in survival mode. You did well – it would be horrible to just let everyone go hungry. :-) We’re only 1 week apart – I’m 17 weeks today.
      No, I don’t know why. But a couple comments above it was stated that water usually make nausea worse – and that was SO true for me!

  45. Well…you KNOW how I feel! I’m glad we’ve been a support for each other–being due so close together! This was the first time I’ve ever had nausea, too…and boy was it rough! I *still* cannot cook a whole chicken or make bone broth (I tried at 17 weeks…it made me SO sick to even look at it much less smell it!)…and I actually bought some in a box the other day! Grace…love it! It’s what the Lord is all about!

  46. This might possibly be one of the best posts I have ever read. I feel ya sister!! I haven’t “officially” announced it yet, but I’m 9 weeks preggo, and trying to eat ‘real food’ has been killing me….
    The raw milk I have in the fridge sounds gross (I know, it’s probably really good for me right now, but I can’t get it down!) and I have been cooking little to none.

    I had hubby bring home a pizza the other night for the first time in 3 years… And I’ve licked my lips as I’ve enjoyed Sprite, and yes, I bought 2 bags of forbidden potato chips the other day.

    And all of those things have tasted DANG GOOD. And I’ve struggled with the guilt, too, but I’ve decided it’s survival mode right now!

    Thank you for your honest post! :)

    • YAY!!!!!!!!! Congratulations!!!! :-) I’m so excited that we’re pregnant at the same time!!!! :-) :-)
      Survival of the Mommies – that’s what I’m calling it.

  47. Billie-Jo says:

    Thank you for writing what I wish I could! I am 11 weeks today. Went through it all at 7 weeks and well seems I’m starting another round of it before I leave my first trimester. Now if I can get the sweetie to read this so that he just may understand being pregnant is hard, mentally and physically. Best wishes to you :)

  48. You know, we all need grace sometimes. I loved this post, it was real and honest. No guilt dished out here!

  49. Erinn Linkous says:

    Never feel guilty doing what you have to do for your family! It’s better to eat processed foods than nothing at all, especially when you have a little one in your belly to consider! So glad you’re feeling better. And remember- if you ever need ANYTHING from us, all you have to do is call/text/email. I would never mind taking care of your family if you ever needed me to do so- you do so much for us!

  50. Amen. Zero condemnation. Even if the 80/20 becomes 50/50 :). God bless you!

  51. Dear Stacy,
    Hang in there! It will get better. Maybe not until your nine months are up, but it won’ t be your whole life. Do what you can and let the rest slide for now. You’ll get your mojo back, and this will all just seem like a short not so good time in your daily life. Look at the reward for it though!!!!!!!!!! A new family member! Precious, precious, precious.

  52. Stacy, this is perfect. I’ve been on the real food journey for almost 2 years now. Baby 1 is 14 months and I’m 8 weeks pregnant with the all day sickness and fatigue. I’m horrible about giving myself grace and I’ve been feeling guilty about the little Caesars pizza we ate last night! Thanks for the permission to ne okay with it when it aems necessary!

  53. Lori Edmonds says:

    Women are usually WAY too hard on themselves. You do what you can, when you can. The rest takes care of itself. Love your honesty and humility, it’s why we all keep coming back and reading your blog.

  54. Dear, dear Stacy
    Here’s to freedom for you…eat whatever tastes good right now.With my first one all I could eat was ham sandwiches and pumpkin pie (not too bad). My mother cooked ham and pumpkin pie for nine months! With the second one it was strawberry ice cream and brownies.
    Blessings to you and your family,
    Roxy in Montana

  55. I think this article just made you my favorite real food blogger!

  56. Thank you so much for posting this. I’m 8 months pregnant and before I found out I was pregnant I had just started getting into the whole food lifestyle. Then I got pregnant and so sick and unable to cook from scratch and all I wanted was fast food. Now that I’m getting closer to the end I’m just tired all of the time so hubby has to cook and we’ve been eating Haburger Helper and such.. I was starting to feel guilty about not giving my baby the best nutrition possible.. But it’s really hard when you can’t stomach the healthy stuff! This helps me feel less guilty and I just try to remember that in a few weeks baby will be out and I have the rest of his or her life to pump him or her full of good nutrients :)

  57. HAHAHAHA…. this is exactly ME right now! You get all the grace from me, and this article gave me the grace I too have needed! I’m having some good days now, in which I can manage making a healthy meal, but most days the only thing I can manage to eat (and eating is the only thing that makes me feel any better after I get the nerve to eat it) is a cheeseburger or some take out Chinese. And caffeine free coke…ginger ale and water also make me wanna heave. The real me, the one trapped in sicko feeling ick right now wants to roast up some butternut squash, or make some whole grain muffins or waffles, or an omelet from our ample supply of eggs from our backyard lady-birds. But as I type that, I want to hurl. Here’s to hoping for better in the next trimester!

  58. All Mamas need breaks and they need to be allowed to cut themselves slack! More often we’re the ones who hold ourselves to rediculous expectations only to feel guilt and embarrassment when we need a “day off” I plan all 14 days of meals but I leave a Friday night $5 pizza night every other week…hey I need a break and a night of cheap carry out pizza wont kill my family or my budget! PS when I was preggo with all 3 I would vomit at the very smell of coffee and at my lunch it was Crunchy Wrap Supreme from Taco Bell with a good dose of spicy hotsauce on every bite(which I would regret with massive heartburn 20 min later)….funny thing is I can’t even eat those now I think they’re disgusting!

  59. Stacy, seriously, I follow about a dozen homemaking blogs and you are hands down my favorite. Posts like this illustrate exactly why. I REALLY appreciate your honesty and your ability to keep life in perspective. You are oh so very inspiring, whereas I often find other blogs to be intimidating. I, as a reader, appreciate the grace you exemplify in all your posts by not dramatizing a subject or insisting on lifestyle choices being all or nothing. So from a loyal reader who has been encouraged by the grace you continually give us your audience: Grace to you, sweet Stacy, you are a blessing to so many.

  60. Jessica J. says:

    Early in my most recent pregnancy, the ONLY thing that sounded good to me? KFC. Greasy, battery-raised, nutritionally-lacking chicken in a bucket. And also those bowls they have, with the pile of fake mashed potatoes, corn giblets, “gravy” and more greasy chicken parts. My husband calls them “failure pile in a sadness bowl”. And he brought them home to me as often as I asked him to and ate them alongside me. Soooo nothing but GRACE from over here.

  61. Girl, I love you!!! Amen!!! Hallelujah!!! (Please fill the rest of this box with similarly enthusiastic statements of strong support and agreement!) Seriously…wonderful post! And you gave me the courage to finish a post I started on a similar topic. Bless you, my friend.

  62. I am not a Real Foodie either. There. I said it. Moving, getting settled, feeling lazy. Just not always into it. We can’t do it all. We can’t be all all the time (though we try)…thank God for grace…literally.

  63. Thank you for this post! Your honesty is refreshing. We all do what we have to do. :)

  64. Christina says:

    I was sick for 6 months with my first son. All I wanted to eat were potatoes & peanut butter. My dear husband, who’s allergic, would be in the kitchen gagging as he fixed me a pb sandwich to keep me from losing it. With my second (who is 8 weeks old today!) I was hardly sick at all, only lost it once, but I had zero energy, so hubby fixed most of our food the whole time. I never really had cravings like I did the first time, but hubby did make a few runs by Firehouse to get me some fries with bbq sauce and I had to have tea from Pal’s about every day. Sometimes more. Just in the last 3 weeks or so I’ve been doing the cooking again.

    We try to eat as healthy as we can, but you do what you gotta do to get through. I’ve been a vegetarian for 12 years now, so the smell of meat in any form would make me nauseous, I definitely didn’t crave it! =) I say feed that baby whatever they’ll let you take! This too shall pass and when it does, you can get back to your normal. Thanks for keeping it real!

    • Beef…it’s totally beef. And ice cream. Lots of ice cream. :-) Pal’s ROCKS!

      • I was a vegetarian for about 12 years too. Somehow my hubby convinced me to eat chicken when we were dating but I never got into beef and could hardly stand to cook it for our family. When I was pregnant with our son in 2010 there many times I’d have him running to Burger King for a Whopper and I’d be sitting in the recliner feeling like I was going to die of hunger because there was nothing else that could satisfy me.

  65. As I read this blog I had mixed feelings. One, I am very excited for you and your family. Children are certainly a blessing from God. I have 3 of my own and a step-son. We are beyond the baby age (all of my kids, except one, are adults and the youngest is getting ready to hit the teenage years). However, I was a little discouraged that anyone might think a “real food” person might think less of someone in your position, or anyone for that matter, because of how they eat. It really made me stop and question if I give off the attitude of being better than other’s because of the way I choose to eat. We are not 100% there. We are close, but we still, from time to time, eat things that aren’t considered “real food”. It is a journey and I think it’s a journey we will always be walking on and never completing. I love your 80/20 rule! Most of our family thinks we have lost our mind because we try to eat “real food”, not processed and we are on a extremely tight budget so that we can hopefull meet our goal of being completely debt free (home and all) in less than 8 years. It isn’t as easy as it seems (we still have 3 children living at home~~1 in college, 1 graduates high school in may). We still pay for everything for them except for the one car payment because they are still in school. We started our real food journey about 2 1/2 years ago, but are just starting our debt free journey. We don’t want to come across as better than anyone else. We just know how eating “real food” makes us feel, so we choose a different lifestyle of eating! Just as Christ followers are no better than non-believers, real food eaters are no better than those whose choose to eat differently! We Christ followers just happen to be “saved by Grace”! I hope that you get to feeling better so that you can enjoy the pregnancy!

    • Sherri,
      I used to read several blogs that made me feel “less” because of the way I chose to feed my family. They showed NO tolerance for anyone who didn’t eat a whole foods diet. I’ve quit reading those blogs. They were not encouraging or uplifting – which is always something I hope to be.
      I do the best I can – and we DO feel better when we eat whole foods…but I also know that God is in charge, not me. Some blogs give the idea that if you eat whole foods all the time, nothing bad will ever happen to you. But that’s not how we think – sin in this world means none of us are immune to bad things.
      You are very right with everything you said – and I’m quite sure that no one has ever felt that you give off a self-righteous attitude. :-) I think you’re quite wonderful.

  66. Thanks Stacy for sharing! I honestly think this has got to be the best blog post I’ve ever read! I can totally relate. I would crave sour candy, cheeseburgers, french fries, and buffalo wings during pregnancy. And, lots of bread. Probably because my body needed some energy. Salad sounded awful and water made me sick too. I was often too weak from throwing up and the constant nausea to cook. I just made more effort later in pregnancy but still allowed treats or cheats because a stressed preggo mama with a 2 year old and a not even 1 year old needs Dr. Pepper. And, to that I say, Amen!

    • :-) Amen for SURE! Even when you’re not sick as a dog, you’re too tired to even roll off the couch. LOL I love the second trimester. It’s soooooooooooo nice.

  67. Jennifer Hensley says:

    Oh Stacy! Oh how I can relate. I too am pregnant with baby #2 and my first trimester was an absolute NIGHTMARE!!! I was so, so, so, sooooooo sick. I couldn’t even stand to smell my own shampoo in the shower without gagging! I got off soda a long time ago but soon discover that Coke was the ONLY thing I could stomach. So, I stocked up on caffeine free and made it through the days. I also found that chewing sugar free original flavored bubble gum was like a miracle drug. Literally the moment I got done eating I would pop in a piece and that was the only thing that would keep my food down. Thank you sweet Jesus, I’m well into my second trimester and the sickness is mostly gone!!! Everytime some woman would say “oh, I was sick my whole pregnancy” I would cringe and pray that wasn’t gonna be me. Thanks lady. That makes me feel a lot better is what I wanted to say. So, I wish you the best with the rest of your pregnancy!

    • Jennifer, the second trimester is a good send! :-) We’re kickin’ it now…I’m only sick on some days, which is VERY sweet relief. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!

  68. Stacy I sooooo appreciate your honesty. I have struggles with this the last 2 years or so. Just the other night, I fed my 3 boys a frozen pizza. It was either that or a stressed out mama. (And remember, stress is not good for you either!) Some days I feel like all I do is cook, cook, cook, so I am actually trying to come up with a few (acceptable to me) compromises so that I can spend time with my boys. I have also had problems with a few blogs that I have read that seem to make everything from scratch and frown on those that don’t. I am going to follow your advice and quit reading them because they are heaping on more guilt. We are doing the best we can with what we have. PLease continue to share, be honest and encouraging to those of us who are reading. That is why you are one (of 2) of my very favorite blogs. Keep up the good work. God’s grace will be upon you!

    • Honey, stress will kill you sooner than anything else. :-) Enjoy your boys…for soon they’ll be men and you’ll miss them. <3

  69. Hey Chicky Congratulations to you and Barry and you eat whatever your heart desires honey and do not feel one bit bad about it.
    Sending Hugs, Julie

  70. Jennifer says:

    God Bless you, Stacy! In a blogging world overloaded with judgmental foodies and applaud you for standing up and keeping it real. Thanks for your honesty!

  71. While your honesty is refreshing, I gotta say McChicken? Really?

  72. Congratulations Stacy on baby #2. I was in the same boat you are with my second. If I cooked it, I couldn’t eat it. Meat was the worst. It will pass. As for what you are feeding your family, don’t beat yourself up. The Lord knew before you were born that you would be going through this. I love the 80/20 rule. Your efforts will certainly be rewarded. I pray you feel God’s grace daily. Blessings!!

  73. You are doing what you have to do, for you and your family, That is all that matters! Your health is most important. This season will pass.You do have a lot on your *plate* now.

  74. While I try to eat a whole foods diet, we are busy during the week that we often have to grab supper on the run. However, we still try to fix real food on the other nights that we are home. You, however, are pregnant. You are not going to be able to always do what you know is better for your family. If you can’t handle cooking right now, at least you are providing nourishment to your self and baby. That’s your main job right now. If others are criticizing your lifestyle at this juncture in life, then you don’t need them around. Do what you need to do and don’t others stress you out because you aren’t living to their standard. Life is too short!

  75. Thanks stacy for keeping it real! We are usually super healthy eaters, but I’m also in the first trimester and have a toddler to care for, etc and salads, fish, etc are grossing me out! I’m craving red meat, dairy & pasta (smothered in cheese of course). It takes everything I’ve got not to whip into a burger joint on a daily basis! I know after the first tri is over, I’ll be back to normal (hopefully!) And I can nourish myself w some salads! Until then my strict foodie husband is my greatest accountability partner bc he refused to eat processed & fast food, so it kinda have to get off my tired butt &cook! Thankfully he is very generous w watching elijah while I nap or doing chores for me! I got a good one!

  76. You can only do your best. No one can judge you but God alone. I for one am so proud of you. I don’t blog but I love reading yours and getting ideas. I am 44 going on 45 years old married to my soulmate for 23 years and I find you and Berry to be an insperation. I am debt free and trying to do my best switching to whole foods and homemade cleaners ever since I was diagnosed with melanoma this past October.

    Hold you head up high girl you have nothing to be ashamed of. Your doing a great job! God bless you and your growing family. I am here praying for you and cheering you on all the way from Texas.

  77. Stacy, I hope you feel better sooner rather than later, but take that Grace while you need it – that’s what its there for after all! I hope to hear more about your pregnancy as you progresses, just found out I’m expecting as well & it’s kinda cool to be going through the same thing at the same time. (I’m getting pretty yakky too, and it really is hard to keep up with a toddler while being so dang exhausted!)
    Keeping you in my prayers. :)

  78. Joyce Tschetter says:

    Amen! What a great post! I had horrible morning sickness ( all day) with both pregnancies. I joke that my daughter Grace should have come out a french fry, because that’s all I could stomach for the 1st 4 months. That and slurpees! I love your honesty, and I agree whole heartedly! God Bless!

  79. If it makes you feel any better, if I lived near you and we were friends, I would eat greasy burgers and french fries with you! Just for moral support, you know cause that’s what friends are for. In fact, I think I am going to get some french fries with extra ketchup in honor of you! :)

  80. Love it!! I think we all can’t be ‘perfect’. I had to start realizing that the 80/20 rule was just going to be part of my life because sometimes it’s just too much of a headache trying to be healthy 100% of the time.

    • I think all women struggle with trying to be “perfect.” I’m finding out more and more that no one can ever achieve that status…and that’s SO FREEING! :-)

  81. I so love that you are real. I want to eat real food too but when I am working and the hubs is working OT – we eat out or starve. our jobs want us capable so we try our best by getting the most healy food out we can, but food and drinks are needed for life so get what you need to stay healthy.

  82. Hon, you hang in there! In 2 Corinthians 12:8, Paul tells us of God’s words to him. “And He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.'” He has a purpose in all things. You may have reached a whole new audience with this post. I’m a fan. I have a feeling that ladies everywhere are saying, “AMEN!” :)

  83. I am 10 wks pregnant with number 6. This is the first one where i have been on a whole foods diet. It was really easy a month ago. I kept wondering lately why i feel it a greater struggle to choose the best foods. Duh! Maybe because i am pregnant. Thanks for pointing that out. Now i can give myself a bit of grace too! Glad i read this today.

  84. Wow this post is so perfect! I have tons of food allergies and should be following the Gaps diet like my boys are. I have felt really guilty for how far I’ve fallen this pregnancy. All I wanted first trimester was bagels and cream cheese and grilled cheese sandwiches. My main allergies are wheat and dairy!! But I gave in a lot, and even had diet pop a handful of times. Thanks for the guilt relief, although that photo makes me want to go get curly fries right now!

    • I’ve found that life is entirely too short to dwell in the guilt that most mamas carry. :-) Be encouraged! This too shall pass. Congratulations mama!

  85. Christina says:

    Stacy, you do your best and leave the rest. I was nauseous throughout the entire pregnancy (my first is 6 months old). The. whole. thing. It’s a most strange feeling nauseous and hungry at the same time. Sounds like you are doing the best you can and really, if you normally eat tons of whole foods then you have prepared well for the pregnancy, surprise or not. Congratulations!

    • Thanks Christina! I’m so blessed to have finally rid myself of the daily nausea…some days it still strikes, but I feel good most of the time now. :-) This pregnancy has certainly been different than my first.

  86. Okay, why am I not getting updates in my google reader…and I TOTALLY MISSED THIS AMAZING NEWS!!!! So happy for you!!! And I am glad to hear that things are going better. I’ve been fairly lucky in that department and just figure out ways to keep plugging along through the mind numbing, full body exhaustion that sets in when I am pregnant.

    Yes, we do the best we can and sometimes we make sacrifices that we would rather not make, but God gives us grace and we do the best we can with what we know at the time!

    Again so happy for you! And the kefir is growing great in my kitchen and many of my friends homes as well…sharing the wealth.


    • Thank you Heather! So happy the kefir is doing well. :-) I am looking forward to starting mine again when we move!

  87. Pregnant mamas totally need grace for the first trimester especially. I too crave meat and protein in massive amounts right now. I have even bee craving unusual kinds of meat like Tilapia or breakfast sausage, that we can really get here in China, but just trying to focus on how many good things we can still get in this city. I am just entering my second trimester so I hope to start feeling better soon. Overall though this pregnancy has been slightly easier than my first two and my sons are able to help me some, so I’m very thankful for that. I hope the rest of you pregnancy goes smoothly.

    • It is soooooooooooooooo much better now at 4 1/2 months. But at first it was rough. You’ll feel better soon too….eat all the sausage you want. lol

  88. Brandi B says:

    It was so refreshing to read this. I am new to the idea of whole foods/super healthy diet. Sometimes I do really well, and other times I get busy, or I give in to my husbands pleas to just order a pizza or run to Burger King. Then, I read some blogs and I feel like such a failure! Not that those women aren’t great! I have so much respect for them and their ability to stick with it. But, it’s so good to know that other women who are on this whole foods path are in the same place as me! We are all trying our best, and doing everything God has given us the grace to handle at that moment! Way to go Stacy!

    • No one has any reason to beat themselves up for doing their best. That’s silly. :-) You’re doing great! And if you need encouragement, you just give me a holler.

  89. Oh yes, Ooooh yes I can relate. I’m three months pregnant and just had three tacos from Taco Bell for dinner last night. We don’t EAT fast food! hahaha That goes out the window when I’m pregnant. The blue boxes of mac and cheese and I have also been getting very friendly recently as well. Tired as I am, with a toddler to feed, and a still touchy tummy I eat what I can when I can! The whole foods/vegetarian diet is currently on hold! I only feel a tinge of guilt. We just started a business too… I’m too busy to care if this potato is organic!

  90. Rachel says:

    Thanks for the info! I felt kinda bad when my midwife told me at my 16-week check-up, “oh, you’ve gained 7 pounds already! You need to stop eating so much sugar and fried food!” I had been so nauseated my 2nd and 3rd months, and one thing that seemed to help was GINGER ALE– I was going through 2 or 3 two-liters a week. I felt bad about it, but my husband assured me that it was better for the baby to have some empty calories from sugar than for me to lose it all and the baby get nothing. Now I’m much better, and able to make my own granola and cook chicken again without gagging. I’m glad the time of Honey Nut Cheerios and Rice-a-Roni packaged dinners are over for now, but I am thankful God blessed me with some convenience foods during that tough time. (How did our ancestors ever make it?! Kudos to them!!)

    • You and me both! Were it not for those convenience foods, we would have gone hungry! Thank God for them! :-) I am sorta sheepish that it look me so long to just give in and drink the Sprite.

  91. I just found this post and had to laugh. My first (and only) pregnancy I was queasy almost 24 hours a day for the first sixteen weeks. Flat on my back on the couch. I did nothing but watch mindless TV and sip on ginger ale and eat pretzels. It was awful.

    When I finally did get an appetite near the end of that time, all I wanted to eat was the Boston Market frozen dinner of turkey medallions, mashed potatoes and gravy. I ate one every day for I don’t know how many weeks. They tasted SO GOOOOD!!!!! LOL! Now I can’t stand the site of them and we never eat frozen dinners.

    I also ate a LOT of regular M-n-M’s while pregnant, again something I don’t normally crave. (I’m a dark chocolate person.) Daughter loves them and I wonder if it’s related. :-)

    Then I ended up on insulin and diet controlled gestational diabetes, but that’s another story. :-)

    • Whew, girl! I’m so thankful my issues are over! :-) The second trimester was VERY welcome around here. HA!

  92. Oh my gosh! Wish I had found this post ages ago — you totally just described the beginning of this pregnancy for me! Wow!

  93. Completely true, but OOOOH yeah. I have an irritable uterus/experience prodromal labor….which makes what you just feel like an understatement!

  94. Thank you SOOOOOOOO much for sharing! This is my first pregnancy, and between advice from well-meaning friends and books and online articles, I have felt like such a horrible person for doing everything you talked about in this post. I just got married ten months ago and right afterward moved away from my family, so I’ve probably been taking everything harder than I should. But the one thing my husband has been stressing when I have a freak out moment about all the stuff I’m not doing “right” is grace. Your post has doubt-impacted that message on my heart. From one VERY grateful and now relieved heart, THANK YOU! God bless.

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